tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1158148650762334332.post6923297913282406671..comments2023-10-06T09:06:35.836-04:00Comments on A Lit Chick: I Know What Boys Like ...A Lit Chickhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02234012550396102951noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1158148650762334332.post-60304638463102251542011-12-19T13:27:15.192-05:002011-12-19T13:27:15.192-05:00Maybe my comment should be directed more at those ...Maybe my comment should be directed more at those others who are commenting then. Somebody is making the argument that men are lost because we don't have rites of passage. Poppycock! The rites don't make you a man. If anything, cultures would put young men through the rites so that they would be artificially emboldened so they could go off to war. Becoming a man has always happened gradually, and there have always been a percentage of boys (and girls) who never quite made it to adulthood. Just as a side note, there are worse fetishes than my little pony. Let the bronies be. We've all got a fetish or two.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1158148650762334332.post-48847857055762163482011-12-15T11:06:17.718-05:002011-12-15T11:06:17.718-05:00Al, you are misreading what I've said. If you ...Al, you are misreading what I've said. If you read my comments above you will note: "And many young men are infinitely better than their fathers in terms of sensitivity and awareness and as male role models." No one said that men are not strong today or that the world is going to hell. They (men) appear to be alienated and confused about their role which is not the same as weak. Women are confused as well - we appreciate strength and bravery but don't want brutality or oppressive behavior. How are these men (the Bronies) gaining valuable life skills about adulthood if they are busy collecting little plastic ponies?Michellehttp://alitchick.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1158148650762334332.post-35367245969922535102011-12-15T09:48:31.590-05:002011-12-15T09:48:31.590-05:00The Bronies think I am smug and a pseudo-intellect...The Bronies think I am smug and a pseudo-intellectual. At least they didn't accuse me of hating ponies!<br />http://tinyurl.com/83pwoyjMichellehttp://alitchick.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1158148650762334332.post-81377576690871666262011-12-15T08:29:47.612-05:002011-12-15T08:29:47.612-05:00If it makes you feel any better, I cannot stand th...If it makes you feel any better, I cannot stand the Kardashians . . .Cherylhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14756045431717118627noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1158148650762334332.post-39311441079846629132011-12-14T22:43:31.604-05:002011-12-14T22:43:31.604-05:00I don't know Al but I still might come up with...I don't know Al but I still might come up with something ...Michellehttp://alitchick.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1158148650762334332.post-780832395183604052011-12-14T16:58:24.902-05:002011-12-14T16:58:24.902-05:00Please be careful with that broad brush. Men are n...Please be careful with that broad brush. Men are no more lost than they have ever been. I know it may be difficult to believe, but what you see and hear on the CBC does not represent reality.<br /><br />This is like the people who say the world is going to hell because they watch the news and see nothing but stories about murder, corruption and conflict. It's the news. They aren't going to report on the guy who went to work, was polite to his co-workers, did his level best, then went home to his loving family and made lasagna. No, they report about the oddities.<br /><br />Here's the real news: The world is not going to hell. Men are better than they have ever been. On the average, we are still strong, but we are learning that our strength does not entitle us to anything. <br /><br />It's true that most men have a genetic and cultural hunter/warrior trapped inside them, but most of us let that part of ourselves express itself through sports, sex and blogging. We know it is part of us, but we also know it can't win.<br /><br />Now what reason are you gonna give for not posting this, I wonder?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1158148650762334332.post-26257239944320918232011-12-14T14:21:26.791-05:002011-12-14T14:21:26.791-05:00Yes, you are right Terri ... the trades are diappe...Yes, you are right Terri ... the trades are diappearing for young and old men, the military begins to look attractive (one of the few ways you can prove your "manliness"). And many young men are infinitely better than their fathers in terms of sensitivity and awareness and as male role models. <br />P.S. Not really dissing Star Trek, but the obesessiveness that attends it - you should see the weird material things I collect/desire. :)Michellehttp://alitchick.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1158148650762334332.post-86467056545870011342011-12-14T14:08:30.765-05:002011-12-14T14:08:30.765-05:00This is complicated (she says as the mother of two...This is complicated (she says as the mother of two young adult sons). Men are partly lost, too, because so many are out of work...manufacturers are closing down and male dominated trades are disappearing (ie millwrights, tool and die). Alternately they are joining the military in record numbers in Canada. But the desire to be "strong" is still there and I see some good things...especially young guys I've worked with lately who are great with their kids and don't talk about "babysitting" their own children. It's not all bad but I agree that sometimes young men are lost...it is partly the changing economy too. Can't make a living by digging a ditch anymore. But my sons give me hope. Great post! And P.S. some gals love Star Trek too (i.e., me).Terrihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04257828722756203916noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1158148650762334332.post-35575445653413008682011-12-14T11:32:07.473-05:002011-12-14T11:32:07.473-05:00But you are right! You are absolutely right ... we...But you are right! You are absolutely right ... we have come to fear those attributes in men (especially here in the West). We fear men - all the traditonal rituals have vanished, hence this sense of "lostness". Women are as much to blame as men in this. We, both sexes, are stipping men of a role that they have held for many millenium and this is the consequence. It's not pretty for men. It's confusing and alienating. I shd likely post this comment as an addendum to my blog post.Michellehttp://alitchick.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1158148650762334332.post-26704112805135107542011-12-14T11:26:12.696-05:002011-12-14T11:26:12.696-05:00I'll be flippant, but not completely: you don&...I'll be flippant, but not completely: you don't let us to hit things, and don't want us to defend things. we no longer have significant rites of passage to mark the end of childhood and adolescence so so we don't grow up to fulfill a natural role. The result: we don't grow up.<br /><br />Women have several natural/biological events to mark the end of childhood and adolescence which men for the most part lack. Which is why it is worse in men than in women5Ringshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16683218971642509357noreply@blogger.com